2017 – Let’s do this…

Let’s face the reality when a new year comes. We prepare ourselves mentally for the big day and make some new resolutions. Next year I’m going to loose weight and get fit; next year I’m going to save so I can buy that house; I’m going to study hard so I can get where I want to be; I’m going to succeed. 

New year comes, we have been preparing for this. The clock strikes 12, that’s it! Happy new year, now let’s do this. First let’s finish this party and sleep the next day, then let’s get on with the resolutions. Oh damn, didn’t realise how much it cost me for Christmas and new year, now the bills have just arrived. Well, saving can wait a bit I suppose. All that unhealthy food and booze has taken its toll on my body, not feeling too good today. Let’s start training when I feel better. Healthy eating, well I don’t want to waste all that left over chocolate, let’s finish that first then start eating healthier. Oh and it’s back to work again, I was too tired to start studying. I will start this when I have some more free time. So on and so fourth we go with excuses.

Some people do keep resolutions with determination and commitment. The reality is this: we will always be able to come up with an excuse, or face a set back whenever we make a serious commitment. It is learning to overcome the set backs and say no to the excuses that enables us to see our commitments begin to prevail. Most people make new resolutions for new years at first, yet over years of falling to keep commitments they give up on making commitments all together. Why bother if I will just fail at it?

I have been there, I know what that’s like! This year I will quit smoking, many years later I stopped saying that. I did quit smoking one day, but this was not for a new years resolution. Yes, this year I will train more to get fitter. Then an injury comes, or an illnesses. Then that voice tells me why bother? You’ve lost all the progress so why carry on now? 

You know why we fail to keep our commitments? It’s because we do not allow ourselves grace to start again. When we anticipate the challenges life throws at us, and allow the grace to start again, we are able to renew our commitments everyday. If you make a resolution and fall at the first hurdle, get back up and try again! It’s when you stay down that your commitment is not valid. Get up, brush yourself off, learn from what caused the fall in the first place and give it another go! A set back doesn’t have to be defeat, it can be a gateway to a greater victory. So yes, don’t give up on making a commitment no matter how many falls you have had. When 2017 is through and you look back on how many times you got back up, and realise how far you have come, you will celebrate this year like you never have before. Is it because you kept all your commitments? No, it’s because you didn’t give up on them!

Happy new year all! Enjoy it, embrace it, and make a commitment to live everyday next year with the grace to always start again.

God bless all from…

Lavish+Deemerzion family



‚ÄčInspiration, we all search for it one way or another. Like precious diamonds buried deep down, we keep digging until inspiration is found. It can start from just a few words, I love you, I do, in sickness and in health, inspiration can bind us to itself. It is found in that book we read, the one where the pages come to life, the one where we forget that it’s a book we are reading, that story that makes us feel alive and stirs us inside. We see some hero and wish to be like that, we wake up one day and want our life back.

Yet we wonder where to start when we find inspiration, we want to make a difference but then we allow that voice of doubt, what if nobody listens? we think to ourselves. Should I wait for inspiration or should I go out and look for it? Maybe if I find inspiration I can write a book for it. Yes, we want to inspire  and be inspired, in this world it needs a touch of inspiration, it is a world searching in desperation especially in this generation.

We see the news and the devastation that is caused when the wrong kind of inspiration is found. We scream and shout and wonder how taking innocent lives gives a ticket to heaven and the promise of virgins for wives. Something in our conscience shines a light as an indicator that this isn’t right. Inspiration causes us to say something, some people are given a stage to do it, they say a speech that turns hearts back to the law of the land, or at least helps people to stand and turn from the evil that’s seen all around.

So inspiration, here I am, take my hand and show me your master plan. Once you take hold of our hearts and we start to embrace just how much inspiration it takes to do something worthwhile in this life that’s been made. We will see that it only takes a little bit of you for this world to change.

Inspiration, show up in this dark place, shine a light to a cursed race and reverse the evil that’s being displayed. Inspiration lead the way, let our hearts not be led astray, show us something good we can do, show us today.


Love: Take action

Love is not based on what we feel, it is an action that we can choose everyday. If we waited for that special feeling to come before we take action, then we may never make a move at all. If love was a feeling, it would change along with our circumstances. If it is an action, then our circumstances provide opportunities for demonstrating love.

The true love of a parent is unconditional, it is not based on the behaviour of the child. It is based on knowing that whether the child behaves well or not, it is still their child. This enables action to be taken when the child needs correction and guidance, love takes action.

The love of our partner may have started with sparks flying and the feeling of being on top of the world, but what about when life gets tough? When the fuzzy feeling has faded, do we still choose to act in love? Love doesn’t quit when the going gets tough, this is when love can make its biggest impact if we allow it too.

Take for example a dogs love for its owner. It is faithful, happy to see them, comforting, obedient and know that they are loved too. We are not animals but we are able to express these same emotions. We dont need to wait to feel ‘something’ before we express our self, we can express it regardless of feelings. We dont feel patience we show it; we dont wait to feel kind, we say something nice or give a gift to show it; we dont feel faithfulness, we grow it with our love through the testing of time.

When life seems to burn like a fire, this is when love can shine its brightest. Dont wait to feel ‘something’, because you may never get that feeling by waiting. Reach out and do ‘something’, then you will see that the action you took released a feeling that is good. Love is not a feeling, it is an action. Today we have a chance to take action and show love.